“Trust is granted, not earned”
Often times I found out about things that I don’t like about people around me. Not necessarily regarding their attitude, though, but mostly about what they did behind my back. You see, I have a serious case of trust issues due to my past and I don’t appreciate not being told about something that they know I would want to know because when I found out about it BY MYSELF, my trust for them has gotten much worse and I don’t want to feel like that about people I’m close to.
How are we supposed to continue our relationship with that person — be it friendship or romantic relationship — when our trust for them is not as how it used to? Always having this uncomfortable feeling in your heart that the person is keeping something from you. I don’t want to live feeling like this about the people I love. If I’m going to continue our friendship, my trust has to be earned, again, if that can ever be earned completely to say the least ’cause I am sure as hell not granting them my trust without any doubt in my mind.
I don’t know where I’m going with this post, I just feel the need to pour my feelings into words. Sigh.
To be honest, I realized trust is a HUGE issue for me when I returned to Malaysia. Well, I stayed out of the country for JUST 6 years but those were the time I could give trust to many people easily without being betrayed. Maybe there were few cases but from how I remember, I was surrounded with lovely people who can trust me and can be trusted.
But, in Malaysia, it is really hard to trust new people in my life. Betrayal is getting real!
so true!
just cut those kinds of people from your life. Having a few loyal friends that you can trust is much better than having a group of friends where you have bad feelings about 🙂
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betul sangat sangat